One of my friends posted on Facebook the other day about romance being dead. I had to disagree. So here is my take on romance.

I have a policy that “the little things are the big things”. I know that romance can look so different to people, but it is there if and when you want to see it. Sometimes we tend to take things for granted, but when I picture a GREAT romance, this is what I see:

Romance is someone believing in your dreams and cheering you on.

Romance is holding your hand when you walk into a crowded room.

Romance is waking up to a good morning kiss and going to bed with the words “I love you” ringing in your ears.

Romance is hitting the snooze button so you can spend a few more minutes holding each other.

Romance is deep discussions about philosophy, life and love.

Romance is allowing the person to do what makes them happy and finding a way to connect even though it isn’t your thing.

Romance is volunteering together and bettering the world around you.

Romance is looking at your partner in pajamas and seeing the beauty in them.

Romance is dressing up for them when you have nowhere to go.

Romance is building them up honestly.

Romance is snuggles by the fireplace with no agenda but to be together.

Romance is finding a new adventure to embark on.

Romance is going out of your way to develop a relationship with their family and friends.

Romance is time.

Romance is being sure there is laughter in every single day.

Romance is a cup of coffee made for you while you shower.

Romance is a listening ear when you are stressed.

Romance is a “can’t stop thinking about you” text in the middle of a hectic day.

Romance is “I will take care of the kids so you can get your stuff done”.

Romance is taking a walk to reconnect.

Romance is a rose you saw at a gas station.

Romance is knowing that when things are hard, you have each other’s backs.

Romance is learning your partner well enough to plan a surprise for them.

Romance is patiently waiting when your partner is running a little late.

Romance is touch.

Romance is a bottle of their favorite wine and no agenda but each other.

Romance is sitting outside watching the sun set in silence.

Romance is accountability to make each other better.

Romance is a stop-in at a random art gallery because you love seeing your partners eyes ignite.

Romance is a shoulder rub after a long day. Please!!!

Romance is being the peace in your partner’s storm.

Romance is a bubble bath running and a robe waiting.

Romance is doing the dishes before your partner can.

Romance is taking her dancing simply to look at her in her happy place.

Romance is respecting their time enough to be on time.

Romance is gardening together.

Romance is cooking dinner and lighting candles on a Tuesday.

Romance is being kind and thoughtful after a long, hard day.

Romance is taking time to really listen, to the emotion as well as the words.

Romance is a text to look at the sky so you can enjoy it together even when you are apart.

Romance is helping around the house, even when you don’t feel like it.

Romance is dancing in the kitchen even when there is no music playing.

Romance is overhearing your partner refer to you in a positive manner.

Romance is putting the phone away.

Romance is keeping the past in the past.

Romance is honesty, even when it hurts.

Romance is going to bed when your partner does, even if you aren’t tired.

Romance is seeing yourselves together in 30 years and knowing it will just be better then.

Romance is letting your partner sleep in when they are tired.

Romance is buying a new book because they mentioned it.

Romance is “what can I do to make your life a little better/easier/more fun today?”

Romance is making decisions based on building for the future.

And that, my friends, that, is a beautiful thing. The little things truly are the big things.

Wild trips and exorbitant adventures are a fantastic aspect of a relationship, but mastering the mundane… That is where success lies.